My Bumble experiences reflect the same unfortunate truth, as do other studies about the complex relationship between gender and power relations on dating apps.
Using a feminist dating app in a patriarchal world is messy, but also fascinating for what it reveals about sexuality, gender and power in the digital dating universe.
So, what are the unwritten rules of dating without exclusivity?It ignores men's feelings about adopting a more passive dating role. I learned the hard way that despite our feminist advances, many men are still not comfortable waiting to be asked out.This was confirmed by several of my matches, who discussed women's acquisition of socio-economic and sexual power as a problem.It can be terrifying but also much more exciting than swiping right. Treena Orchard is an associate professor in the School of Health Studies at Western University. These days, being single doesn’t mean you’re entirely unattached.Like the female worker bee, women do all the work on Bumble. Putting myself out there repeatedly made me feel vulnerable, not empowered.Courtesy of Bumble In my five months on Bumble, I created 113 unique opening lines, each of which involved not just work but also a leap of faith. Sure, there was some short-lived excitement, but much of my time was spent wondering if they would respond.Only 60 per cent of my opening lines were answered and I met just 10 men in five months, which is a 9 per cent "success" rate.Of my 10 encounters, four rated as very good to excellent, three as quite bad and three fluctuated in the middle: not terrible, but not something I'm keen to repeat.Established in 2014, Bumble is branded as a feminist dating app that puts women in the driver's seat and takes the pressure off men to initiate dating conversations.In a 2015 Esquire interview, Bumble CEO and co-founder Whitney Wolfe Herd explained the honeybee inspiration: However, a honeybee hive is less about sisterhood and more about gendered inequity.