and Claude Steiner's Scripts People Live might be a good place to start for anyone interested.In a nutshell, in TA scripts are different than you've got them -- they result from longterm persistent low level programming by the parent of the opposite sex. (This model goes back to before the disintegration of the two-parent family began.) So a mother will tend to script a son to be like his maternal grandfather, possibly emphasizing his good qualities and excising his bad ones, depending on the mother's relationship with her father and her adult perspective.You need someone with whom you can reveal your authentic self, not just a piece of you—and you are the only one who can bring that full you to the table.I am so glad someone is finally blowing all the horseshit out there in the dating world out of the water.I went deep inside of myself to where I truly reside and stayed there, peaceful and still.I met my date, Rob, at a coffee shop, still deeply in touch with my self and enjoyed the most rewarding first date I'd ever had.Rob and I will go out on our 4th date tonight :) Peace y'all, Denise What a lovely story, Denise! Congrats on reaching your true self and braving the dating world with comfortable success.I can totally relate to how you used to approach dating, feeling like you only have your appearance to offer. Your comment has really made me think about my self-worth and how I interact with men... The reality is, both genders are addicted to scripts that were forged from early life history experiences.
Assess each new partner as an individual, and stay keenly connected with how you experience yourself while in his or her presence.
When it comes to courting and dating, popular longstanding advice suggests that until the fish is on the hook, it is beneficial to adhere to certain "rules." These rules seem to offer a recipe for finding commitment and true romantic partnership, but what they invariably deliver is lopsided loving.
In my experience treating couples and individuals, many hope that if they "play the game" correctly, their prince or princess will be the prize.
Keep writing and get this stuff in the main stream where people can learn to stop shooting their selves in the foot.
I'm glad to see that someone has some common sense! My thoughts on #1 is, you can wait all you want, if she's promiscuous, I'll figure it out before her phony waiting period is over.