Plus, you know your body better than you ever did in your 20s." All those years living in your skin has taught you what turns you on that you just didn't know two decades ago.
And what's sexier to a man than a woman who knows what she wants in bed?
You might be bored or in a rut (and so might your man), so address it as soon as possible, advises Dr. Myth 8: If I've never had great orgasms, it's too late now. Sebastian, who admits, "I was never multi-orgasmic until after I had my second child." She attributes the change to a newfound sense of self-confidence, an ability to start askingfor what she wanted in bed.
When I was growing up, I thought dating ceased at approximately 25 to 27 years of age.
Myth 7: Things that once turned you on no longer work because of your age.
Truth: "This is more a fact of a long relationship than aging," says Mc Grath. Have a whole range of moves in your sexual arsenal because different things turn you on not just in different stages of life but on different days! Did you recently get a promotion at work and are feeling good about yourself? It's never too late to explore what turns you on, says Mc Grath.
Truth: The changes that occur in the (sometimes) years before menopause, such as irregular periods, mood changes and lack of vaginal lubrication will affect your sex life. Take dryness: Using a lubricant such as KY Jelly helps, but so does the act of having sex: "When blood goes to the genitals, the tissues remain healthy," encouraging natural lubrication.
Being chronically out of energy can trigger a sex drive dip, so ask your doctor to check your thyroid levels and test you for anemia, says Mc Grath.
And look at your lifestyle: Maybe you need to pare down your commitments and get better sleep by regulating your bedtime and removing un-sexy (and rest-interfering) TVs and computers from your bedroom.
"Your lumps, bumps and wrinkles mean nothing to 99% of men over 40," says Bobbi Palmer, founder and CEO of Date Like a Grownup.
"What you lack in firmness you more than make up in humor, compassion and experience.