I lost my best friend around this time because I felt judged by her.Losing her friendship was very painful for me and today we are like strangers.The children don’t know about his sex addiction and I don’t want them to.Finding a good therapist and people who have been through the same experience is critical.There were many times when the pain was so bad that I wanted to die.
“They usually have lots of questions that there aren’t clear answers to initially and they need to be careful of their own mental health because it can take a massive toll.” Here, two women who are married to sex addicts share their stories (their names have been changed).
My sister saved me in those first few months and she was the one who found the Rutland Centre.
There was a very small circle I could talk to and you have to have absolute trust in the people you tell because it is a matter of life or death in this addiction.
Did I stay during his treatment and see what would happen on the other side, or did I leave him? I put the man I know him to be on one side and the addiction and terrible choices on the other and it always shifted one way.
It was so hard to accept that this was an illness, but the way I looked at it, if my husband had been suffering from cancer, I would not have turned my back on him.