Teaching your child boundaries, learning to say “no,” and coaching your child to practice good behaviors are all part of an important discipline strategy.Helping your child through each phase of his life with loving discipline is an integral part of his development, a necessary requirement to help him grow into a healthy adolescent and beyond.“Lily’s having fewer play dates because no one wants her around, and I get it,” says Sarah.
But in the midst of all of these difficult years with your child, remember these two things: Bad behavior from children between the ages of two and six is completely normal—and as a parent, you have the ability to help your child learn how to begin to control him or herself.
If you are a good listener, I will consider reading you two stories. Kids at this age tend to feel like their lives are mostly mapped out for them on a day-to-day basis, so it’s important to give them some freedom of choice throughout the day. What if someone told you what you were to wear and eat, when you would go to work and come home, and who you would socialize with each and everyday. Young children are no different and giving them some wiggle room each day is a loving form of discipline that is likely to decrease their tantrums and acting out.
If you have a tantrum, you will go right to bed.” When you tell your child matter-of-factly that you are in fact in charge and then propose a consistent routine each day, whether we’re talking about bedtime rituals or overall discipline, your child begins to know what to expect and feels secure within the rules of the house. Here’s a good example: Trey is a spirited, strong-willed 2 ½ year old child who likes to have his way.
His mother shows her wisdom in allowing him to pick and choose various things throughout the day that really have no impact on Trey’s well-being or safety.
At breakfast time she’ll ask Trey, “Do you want cantaloupe or grapes today?