Television can make such a history into a lot of things — meaningless, devastating, even humorous.
You find something you like—maybe you’re a Facebook fan, or a loyal Instagrammer, or a member of the cool Snapchat club—and you stick to it. Ever wonder if you’ve met your soulmate, but didn’t know it?
The twin emotions of judged when you feel the weight of your partner’s regret and struggle to process what their sins mean for you.
Obsession, because you want to let the past be the past, but only after your own morbidly detailed investigation — and because you stubbornly refuse to be rejected and overlooked for the purity which you’ve guarded so diligently.
Talk with some sane, godly (confidential) friends your partner. Humble yourself and recognize that your partner with a sexual past may very well understand grace now far better than you do (Philippians 2:3). To stake our value in being the best at everything in a future spouse’s life is absurd.
Jesus says, “Her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little” (Luke ). If dating is moving towards marriage, and you learn of a sexual history, recognize that you were never pursuing this person so that you could be the — for as long as they both shall live.