At the time, I had joint custody and only saw them two weeks out of the month.I knew they weren't ever going to meet him, so I didn't feel the need to tell him right off the bat.
The questions were surface-level (like, do you prefer romantic comedies or horror movies?" I just wanted some casual fun with a classy man who had it together.As I finished creating my profile, doubts flooded my mind. While scrolling through the site a few days later, a man, John,* messaged me out of the blue.I wasn't really sure how to read him, and I'm usually pretty good at that.After some brief small-talk (you know, the typical what-are-your-hobbies-what-are-you-looking-for chitchat), we set up a coffee date.While exploring that question, I came across Seeking Arrangement.com, a website designed to pair sugar babies with sugar daddies or mommas.Now here was something different; something I never, ever thought I would discover. But a part of me was very curious — too curious to ignore.That kind of relationship didn't go with my moral standards. After a fluke first marriage at 27, I met the successful, headstrong man I was taught to believe every woman wants.Women strutting for a wad of cash and to please a wealthy man … I saw my love life going in a much different direction. Together, we had three beautiful children and lived the classic, white-picket-fence life for almost two decades. He's an entrepreneur, so I was always sympathetic to the demands of his work.No one would ever seek out a 50-year-old sugar baby … John was a 34-year-old business executive from my town.His "Hello" note was very straightforward, even a bit cold.