For the first 18(ish) years of our lives, making friends comes organically.You become close with classmates from elementary to high school because those are the people you see nearly every day.It also has over 300 million users between its website and its app, which means a large dating pool, but also more scammers and fake accounts. Hinge matches you up with friends of friends based on your Facebook contacts. Users post an invitation to hang out and then choose from respondents whom they want to meet. Specify whether you’re using it for friends, a hook up or dating to make sure you find someone looking for the same. After an hour, the invitation, all chats and photos are erased. This was an instant way to feel a slice of home while being so far from my friends and family.It’s comforting knowing we’re all in this together just trying to meet new friends and have a good time.But let’s rewind to 2012, when I first moved to Los Angeles and this certainly wasn’t the case. Sure, when you move to a new city, you expect all the changes—new apartment, new favorite grocery store, new job, etc.But what I didn’t expect or really think about was how challenging it would be to make a new set of “LA friends.” I was fortunate enough to move to the west coast with one of my dear college friends from the University of Kansas, so I wasn’t completely on my own during this journey.
It requires a little more investment on your part, but you will learn more about your matches with this app than most others. It’s formatted like Tinder (but with more profile), it tells you if you’ve crossed paths like happn and you can use it for friends or dating like Bumble. If you want a quick way to find people who roll with the same crowd as you and don’t want to ask your friend about that cute coworker, Hinge could be the answer. The ironically named Pure is even more effective than Tinder for making casual, ahem, connections. Their 20-questions quiz goes beyond the basic info that a lot of other dating apps ask for.This makes it so you don’t have to think twice and takes the mindless stress out of planning a friend date. One of my good friends taught me to always have five questions or topics ready to talk about or funny stories to share on a first date so conversation doesn’t get stale. You may go on a handful of first-date friend setups, but the good news is that as you get older and hit a level of maturity, you realize that if a friendship isn’t working out, there’s no need to force it and you shouldn’t feel guilty about that. Don’t feel weird about reaching out to a coworker or someone who went to your college who you weren’t friends with but now live in the same city.Take advantage of childhood or college friends who are willing to set you up with someone they know living in your new city. Plus, who wants to waste time and energy (and the cash! Just remember you’re great and people do want to hang out with you, so be a little shameless and extend an invitation.But even with one good friend under my belt, I still found it difficult to find new friends.I remember it hit me about three months in (you know, let the honeymoon phase fizzle) and thinking, wow, I went from always having plans and friends to hang out with to literally sitting on my couch feeling weirdly lonely watching all my college friends who live in the same city go out and post on social media, and there I was so far away and feeling so out of my comfort zone.I know this isn’t the case for most people, but when you find a set of friends who truly get you and you trust with your deepest darkest secrets, you hold onto and cherish those relationships.Throughout my high school and college years, I always had an active social life and booked nightlife schedule.Originally the app only showed one match per day, but after an update last year, that’s increased.For now, it only services Toronto in Canada, but plans to roll out in Vancouver this fall. Dragonfruit matches couples based on their particular nerdy obsessions.This is also a smart way to network and build out your contacts for potential new career opportunities.When it comes to the apps on our phones, we tend to become loyal to a select few.