And also to not spam send out the same message to a hundred girls. But if you don't like it the way there is only one option. And that's the real key to good sex -- relax the fuck up and have fun doing it. You're both flopping your naughty bits in front of each other, and both of you are pretty hot about having those naughty bits flopping around. Grab and grope and lick and suck with great abandon, and without fear or limits. Third or fourth time, you'll both hit That Moment like a Boss, and it will be followed by the most fantastic breakfast ever, and you will suddenly realize, "Holy shit.Seriously, It may seem like "work, work." to write personalised messages to people you're interested in, But each of those girls you send a copy-paste to will just think you're some crazy possibly slightly dangerous person, because when you get tonnes of messages from men daily you eventually kinda understand what's real and what is just some bullshit copy paste. Only one, and unless you accept that you will fail over and over again, you will be unhappy for all your life: If you don't like the way things are - fight with all your power to change it. I'm not a virgin and I don't feel like a total asshole having got here," and you will look across that diner table over the omelet and hash browns and smile, and you will thank me and Prolapsed Pineal and send us a silent fist bump. I am one of the 2 women that are real and do meet up for sex with men.She probably has about 10 guys she's thinking of meeting, but she'll want to meet the guy that wants her the most.That you deserve that awesome woman or man that you only dare to stare at from a distance. You spend your nights all at home playing video games and still you expect to be able to have interesting discussions with other people? You don't deserve good things, you work for them. I've been working on getting back into shape and taking care of myself, but I've been in good shape before and I've always made an effort, its mostly just been a matter of confidence. You talk about getting hobbies and passions, well, you can't just chose to be passionate about something.That you deserve the great body, healthy skin, perfect job, high pay, amazing holidays, the new computer or your dream fulfilled. There is no one in the universe that looks at you and says "well, you deserve to have all these things, I am going to give them to you". If you can read this you probably already had many great things thrown at you for which you didn't do a thing. The whole concept of "deserving" something, punishment or reward, is based on an ancient logic that there is somebody watching over us who can read your mind and rewards you for merely being good and punishes you for merely being bad. And you should be happy about that, because else probably you would be starving and not the Indian farmer who works 14 hours a day to feed his family and still half his children die from diarrhea and he himself with 30 from starvation. You can be one of the 1% or so lucky ones, those who get things for merely being born in the right family, or with the right looks or the incredible mental skills. I'm trying now to develop some new hobbies that are more likely to attract women, but for about 20 years my main hobby has been working on and playing with computers.I guess I'll check out that book, I've got nothing better to do really.r/sex is for civil discussions about all facets of sexuality and sexual relationships.It is a sex-positive community and a safe space for people of all genders and orientations.
Or kill myself, but I'm punting that until I'm 30, I figure 3 solid years of trying and failing is proof positive that things aren't going to work out.I personally know a chick that's a regular of ladyboners and a few other sex related subreddits. You can't find happiness, you have to create it. Yeah, this is bullshit because it's advice that someone gives once they've already accomplished those things, without describing the process. Self-esteem doesn't magically come out of the ether.She's always in the subreddits trying to pick up on men, but it doesn't appear that they realize it. Normally, the reason people don't do these things is because they have some barrier to how they see the world--they don't trust people, they CAN' T put themselves out there because they're painfully shy, and the only thing worse than being how they are is giving up the only way of being that they've ever known. A lot of it involves getting in touch with yourself and others.I agree that Ok Cupid is a stupid way to go, getting 1 reply to 20 messages doesn't teach you a fucking thing, at least in person a girl has to at least communicate a and you can get some idea of what you're doing wrong. I hoped it would get me over my fear of initiating communication, but its really been a worthless exercise so far.Of course, as unpleasant as the advice "Change everything about yourself and be someone else" may seem, its still probably better than that old bullshit "Be yourself" I've heard over the years.There's a terrible lack of positive, older men who can give life advice out there. Deal with it, accept that you have a good friend, and move on. But don't whine how cruel the girl is because she doesn't let you hump her even when you fix her computer. Instant gratification through TV and fast food and those fake achievements of games that come in exactly that interval that keeps you hooked. Clicking a button and doing fun things will rarely make you successful. Of course, even hard work doesn't guarantee anything. You can sit in front of your computer, doing your job with average results while you spend time on reddit - and you still think you deserve a raise? Women can smell a man that has confidence in himself.Frankly, my Dad passed away 10 years ago and I'd still like to ask him some things now and then. I'll do as much as I can to help it to be a good place. There is this weird mentally, especially on circlejerking places like Reddit, that somehow you deserve to have all the things you want. You wake up and don't bother to shower but still expect people to enjoy your company? I can’t prove this scientifically, but other men look up to you, and the women follow naturally. You probably can’t be obese, but you don’t have to be jacked. A witty sense of humor and an educated mind goes a long way. I'm 27, and I've been trying to get over my own issues very hard for the last year or so.I'd say half of my partners, 4, have come from here and I used it for 6 months (then year break then used it about another year before stopping again)Is this for real? Your goal is to make her cum so hard that she forgets her own name.As a gay man, I can pick any random gay site, even if it's crap and small and find some penis in like, 5 clicks. The women are there for sex, act like you are too and don't beat around the bush. But you know one thing: If you never try you will always fail, every day, every hour, every second. Manage that, and she'll probably return the favor. Throw her back down and give her round two, then round three.Edit: If you're a virgin your body is going to be so excited to have sex the first time you're going to be rubbish. I want to keep up with helping out but I can't respond to every pm as well as I would like. They are the self-entitled ones who believe that food should fly in their mouths, and that their great inner values are enough to become great, no work needed. The most ridiculous and sexist concept I have ever heard of. But that doesn't change the matter: If you believe that somebody else to love you because you do something nice for them; if you believe that somebody else needs to feel a certain way because of things you do - then you are an idiot. Maybe you are just unlucky, there are a few of those - but, if you are honest with yourself, the chance that you are one of them is small. Bad for you that you say yes to all those donuts and chips. You avoid that donut and in return you wake up in the morning and your trousers fit. And then as far as dressing nice--fuck, some people figure out a cool style, other people look in magazines/clothing websites and try to find examples of stuff they're not totally embarrassed wearing that seems to fit in with the current style.You can't expect to be an expert at something you're just trying for the first time. Don't watch porn to learn how to do this, read some of the great posts here about it. I thought a subreddit where other Dads could pitch in might be helpful. Sure, there might be one or two who would deserve better luck - but likely, when you are honest with yourself, you are probably not one of them. Yes, it's now applied in both directions, but traditionally it is that a woman "puts" a "nice" guy in the friendzone. If you are unhappily in the friendzone - you are an idiot, plain and simple. Is there a "fair" universe - where fair means biased in your favour - that gives you all the things you want? If you are on Reddit whining about your lack of friends or partner or your horrible job - then consider for a moment whether you are part of the problem, whether it is not your fault rather than the rest of the world being rude to you. Most people are socialised in this "get it all" society. You start reading a book on French and the next day you can talk fluently. But yeah, the breezy way Prolapsed Pineal describes all this is the sort of explanation that can only come from a dude who's been married for 20 years with stable friends/relationships for that long and completely forgets how tough it is building that stuff in the first place.