But it still is important to admit this problem, because it is true. But yeah with the way society is structured and the emphasis on individualism it is monumentally difficult to make friends as an adult. Once you've left school, where everyone has to serve their time and are banded together in a common experience for years on end, you are pretty much on your own and the conditions for forming meaningful friends are few and far between unless of course you make it your mission to find those conditions for yourself. There is no order and there is no plan ahead of you unless you're lucky enough to have healthy role models to follow.
You're now completely responsible for your fate and no one knows what they should do. One good thing you could try to counteract this problem is to not focus on making friends and stop trying to achieve that specific goal.
So far that, not to sound too pessimistic, it's toxic in many ways.
But anyway we shouldn't dwell on that broadscale problem because it's very unlikely society can be changed in our lifetimes.
I mean, if you have to go meet strangers, they might as well be strangers who share your same interests.
Meet Up advertises events that happen all over the world, and they have some oddly specific events.
If you have your gab session at a park, you don't even have to clean your house or make (buy) snacks.
And if you're child-less, but still have a furry child (as in a cat or dog or hamster, of course — let's not get weird), try heading to a dog park.
But making friends as an adult is more like seeing the gynecologist. Where do you start without resorting to combing loud bars filled with people who are actually as young as you feel but who look like middle schoolers? I can't guarantee you won't feel like you're about to get the speculum or that you won't fall on your face and spill something that stains on something really expensive.It's not like in all your schooling and growing up you've been taught these important skills of developing patience and keeping going despite setbacks.The society we're living in is extremely far from our natural way of existing and living.Comment, post, make funny jokes, chat, then if things start getting pretty serious, start chatting, texting or even (gasp! You probably get a million invites to things like random birthday parties, special events for businesses you've never patronized, and friends doing live home births (true story). Sometimes all it takes is that one rare unicorn who kind of gets you to open up a whole new world of people. Meredith collects data to deliver the best content, services, and personalized digital ads.They don't want that power and you need to learn it's what's best for you too.So yeah none of this is straightforward but that's because friendships are not straightforward. I know there can be great friendships in store for you.But you do have to take the weight and pressure of it off yourself and let it go.Don't give other people that much power over yourself.It isn't impossible but I can admit from experience it definitely feels like it.It requires this persistent patience to take the disappointments that pain you and not give up.